LINK FOR THE ARTICLEThe term, "American Born Confused Desi" refers to an individual who is culturally confused. They consider themselves Brown on the outside, yet white on the inside. These feelings stem from loss of cultural identity. When one is of a different descent, but then grows up in the U.S. it is hard to keep that connection to one's original background. For example, in this article the girl is told by her father "remember we are Indian." She understands that she's Indian, it's just so hard for her to stay true to her culture when America has such different values.
Nisha was raised in Madison, Wisconsin. Growing up in Wisconsin seems like it would truly be a true blooded American experience.
Nisha went to
kindergarten with other little
American children and when she came home she was expected to
participate in her family's regular cultural and traditional activities. She gave the example of eating her mother's spicy Indian food. She was trying to be accepted by all of these children but still please her parents at the same time. WE HAVE TO KEEP IN MIND
KINDERGARTNERS ARE FOUR AND FIVE YEARS OLD. That is a lot to ask of someone who is four feet and under (probably completely inaccurate, Caroline Myers doesn't currently know any
Kindergartners). Children are just trying to fit in in most cases. It's hard for them to embrace their differences and coming to a new country (especially the U.S.) would not be easy.
As already discussed, racial stereotyping is a common problem among citizens of the United States. However, children could be some of the most guilty when it comes to this epidemic. Kids are often sheltered and don't really understand people who are different than they are, which is somewhat excusable because they are still pretty uneducated/naive. However, parents should be teaching children from a young age to embrace cultural difference. If that is what America is all about AHEM. In
Nisha's case "John and Tammy are always assuming
Nisha doesn't know as much or feel exactly like them because...well...she's an Indian.
Neha and
Rahul expect
Nisha to like and laugh at the same things that they do because...well...why wouldn't she? She's an Indian isn't she? This is the problem. These children don't know anything about her culture. Similarly to Janet's experience. When interviewing Janet Yuan, Caroline Myers learned that people had funny perceptions of Canada and many generalizations. Janet moved to Wilmette from Canada when she was around ten years old, she mentioned many students asking her if she used the word "eh" a lot. These kids in
Nisha's store just assume she is foreign and doesn't understand or doesn't have anything in common with them.
Nisha is in fact American. Maybe she has a different family background, but she was also born in America. She's not an alien. Recap: fitting in with the other kids, pleasing her parents, being an American, being a good Indian girl. DILEMMA.